Sunday, November 11, 2007
/ 12:22 AM
played badminton for most parts of the day today, 3pm to 1030pm, thn after that went out for supper with the coaches and was the butt of their jokes as well. ): BUT, the conversation had quite abit of meaning though, it was about relationships. One of my coach's friend's gonna get married soon, so my coach was saying "oi, ni wei le yi ke shu fang qi le sheng ling (ure giving up the forest for a single tree)" I was like laughing damn hard cuz he said it in hokkien(they all speak hokkien) and it sounded damn vulgar, like scolding his mom lidat. HAHA! Thn he started talking about his own marriage, saying "wa ga wa e wife pa tor half year jiu jie hun le(date for a year before getting married). thn all of a sudden, the conversation turned to me... like it always does. -.0 They were all telling me, usually relationships starting in secondary school dont last long, as in doesnt end in marriage. Cuz there's the A levels, thn after that while the guy goes NS, the girl's in uni, and she's thrown in a whole world where there're so many guys around and you only get to go out of camp once a week. Then after NS you'll go uni and then the girl would be out working, where she'll be around even more guys. So they were saying the NS period really shows if the relationship would last. And there i sat, listening to all this,trying to decipher they're hokkien while trying to grasp the meaning of their words. lols. Thinking back, i think the most important factors that determine if a relationship can last is FAITH,ATTACHMENT,TRUST and SECURITY; they all seem the same but actually there are subtle differences.
Faith is what breed's everything else, with faith there's trust and security.
Attachment, to me, seems like the basic building block in a relationship, as in, its the link that bonds the two persons together.
Trust, simply put, is believing that the other person would do the right thing.
Security then, is what hold the two persons together, its the assimilation of the three mentioned above.
Then if that's the case, i'd only have trust & attachment, and just enough security. But still for faith, its not me not having faith on other people, but instead me not having faith in myself; just one thing,i get a teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeny weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeny bit jealous easily, this kinda results in me getting psm-y all of a sudden. so yeah..haha. well thinking back to my coach's words, i wonder......
